Dating apps/sites. They are a funny thing aren’t they.
If I am honest, I don’t like them. I feel that they are un-organic. You are initially judging someone on their looks, rather than their ability to consume you in conversation, or make you laugh. I am not on any dating sites or apps, and I don’t think I ever will be.
Victoria, however, is on Bumble.
Bumble is a app in which you can see people that are close by in real time, if you like the look of someone, you may “match” them, and then you can start to chat.
Recently, Vic went on a date with someone she has matched. To be honest, it was more of an experiment than anything. Do you want to know how it went down…?
Here it is in her words..
Okay, so recently I joined Bumble. Im not sure really what it was that spurred me on to do it, but I felt ready to start to speak to other people, even if it was just light hearted.
I matched with LOADS of guys – Believe me, swiping left or right can become quite addictive!
A spoke to a few of my matches.
To be honest, I didn’t click with any, except Matt.
Matt was really funny, he had a quick wit and the conversation flowed all day long, so when he asked me on a date, I quickly accepted. Maybe this was it, maybe I was FINALLY going to meet my Mr Right.
I definitely had a lot of doubts, and so many fears. What if it did go well, I let him in, and he hurts me? I spoke to Megs, and she assured me that it would be fine, besides, we know The MANScript now..
So, we went for a walk around the lake.
I know, a walk for your first date?! – It was my choice, and I thought it would be a more natural way to have a natter and get to know someone!
It went SHOCKING.
The conversation didn’t flow any more. It was sooo awkward, and not at all like the messages that we had exchanged prior to the date.
I texted him later that evening, and explained how I felt. Matt agreed completely, the chemistry wasn’t there at all.
I haven’t let the experience put me off dating at all. I really enjoyed the initial conversation, and the thrill of meeting someone new was awesome.
I have learnt that speaking to someone on the phone before meeting them in person is defo a good way to ensure that the conversation will flow when you do meet them.
Since the date with Matt, I have been speaking to a few other people, but I haven’t been on any more dates yet, but I do have one lined up next week, so wish me luck guys!!
I would hugely recommend trying to speak to new people. It has really helped my confidence, and has made me see that people do see me as an attractive young woman, and have interest in me!!
Go into it with a light heart, and have fun!!