Her bright eyes filled with sadness, but only for a moment. She furrowed her brow and began to explain.
“Imagine believing all those lies, like really believing that what he said was the whole truth. I was so engrossed in the man I loved, he was my whole world. In my eyes, he could never do wrong.”
But Vic, why didn’t you listen to us?
“Well that’s the funny thing Megs, I did listen. I just didn’t want to believe”.Those words shocked me a little. I had never been cheated on. However, I had got “ghosted” (a term I never knew the meaning of before it happened to me) – That’s right, the man I loved, he packed his bags and left without a trace. So, I understood the heartache, I understood the struggle.
But the going back, I couldn’t quite get my head around it. I remember sitting in this same spot a little over a year ago. Victoria was glowing red like a lobster after breaking down in tears again. It was heart-breaking. I felt like I was going through her pain with her. But it wasn’t the first time we sat in this spot, having this same conversation, and deep down I knew it wasn’t the last.
This time we had proof, categorical, black and white, proof.
She still went back.
It has taken a lot of strength to support her through this turbulent relationship – funny, right? It’s not me that was cheated on, yet I had to gather all my strength to prop her back up, to be there at any hour, listen to the pain, hold her, and pour every ounce of love into her. It took her 3 years to walk away. And with those 3 years, she lost a lot of friends.
At first, she was scared to be by herself, that’s when the loneliness crept in, and the thoughts ran wild. But, little by little, I watched the girl I grew up with turn back into the beautiful, happy, carefree girl she was once before.
The scars are still there, but that’s okay. Sometimes she has down days, the tears flow, and that’s okay too. It’s all okay. Remember that.
Every woman that has walked away from a cheater has such incredible strength. The world can be a big scary place. But us women, we are pretty dam strong. All we need is a little belief in ourselves!! And besides, you’ve got us now. Every one of us here at Keys2Life. So welcome, come on in. We’ve got your back.
And remember, don’t fall for the ManScript.